Hi. My name is Alex Moy and this site, blog, project, experiment is another one of my crazy entrepreneurial pursuits. (You can find out more about what I do on a daily basis in the about section of the site.)
I truly enjoy helping others build systems and sustainable businesses. To date, I’ve launched over 40 different start-up concepts from websites to brick-and-mortar businesses and advised on dozens more. Not all have been successes, but I’m much better than when I first started.
This site is a little different. In fact, it’s all about you.
My goal here is to help you accomplish 3 objectives:
- Understand what is the highest and best use of your time is.
- Create a vision and a plan to help you accomplish your life goals.
- Develop a system for outsourcing components of your life that you dislike so you can spend your time and energy on what you love the most.
What I’ve learned in my business pursuits is that business isn’t everything… neither is money… fame… or even success.
What ultimately matters is your why.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Henry David Thoreau – “It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?”
Many of us get caught up in the daily rat race of completing tasks or working at a corporation. We spend our time being busy, but for what?
Goals are great. I love goal setting, vision casting and strategic planning… but that’s all fluff if you don’t know what you’re living for.
So, spend time answering these three questions:
- Who do you want to be?
- What do you want in your life?
- Who do you want to share it with?
These three questions have helped me clarify my intentions and define the path I walk in life. When I’m faced with a challenge, question or decision, I reflect on these three questions for my answer.
Let’s break them down into more detail (or download your 3 Life Questions Guide and do it offline.)
Who do you want to be?
The first question deals with Character. What type of person do you want to be and what values do you want to embody. When people see you, what words do you want them to associate with you?
Make a list of these words… these traits or values will be your measuring stick for decisions in you life. Always ask yourself, does this decision align with my core values?
There’s a saying in business that people only work with others they know, like and trust. That trust part is one of the most important elements I weigh. How do I know whether I can trust an individual?
Personally – I ask around and get references. I have people conduct online research about all their past business ventures and current business dealings. I look into their personal relationship history and on some occasions, I do a criminal background check.
I chalk this up to doing my due diligence, but in most cases, you know a person’s character by the actions they take in the face of adversity – not in a single instance, but over the long-run.
What do you want people to say about you? Who do you want to be?
What do you want in your life?
Secondly, what are you goals and aspirations? Do you truly want to be a millionaire, or do you just want more free time?
What would you do with a free day? For the longest time, I would spend my free time simply staring at a computer screen trying to build more businesses and playing online games… why? Because I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my free time.
I never took the time to evaluate what I was working so hard for. You have to pause for a moment and think about what goals you really want to achieve and why they are important.
Take a few minutes to think about what you did your last day off. Did you make the most of your time? Where you able to full enjoy time off from work?
If you’re like the majority of Americans, you ended up in front the TV on the couch and Netflix had it’s way with you…
Having business goals are nice, but its even nicer to have life goals. Most people plan their work days, but don’t take the time to plan their play time or personal nights and weekends.
If you aren’t living the life that you thought you’d be, take a moment and figure out what you’d really like your daily life to look like. Draft out the two or three things you’d like to have in your life on a daily basis.
For me, it’s having time to play piano and sing (not very well, but I’m slowly getting better!) each day, kicking the soccer ball around either with friends or in the garage just to get some activity in, and taking a walk around the neighborhood with my wife and our puppy each night after dinner.
These things make me feel fulfilled and I purposefully plan out my time each day for these activities. Minor? Maybe, but it makes my life complete and it’ll be different for everyone.
Here’s the big picture process that you can take if you want clarity on your goals / vision for your life. Imagine yourself on your deathbed and sharing with your grandchildren your life story. What would be the greatest highlights that you’d like to share with them?
Who do you want to share it with?
After you figure out what your values are and what you want to accomplish, I think its important to know who you want to share it with.
Life isn’t a one-man (or -woman) show. There’s a whole cast of people that play a part in your story. When you imagine that deathbed scene, who do you want to be surrounding you? Who are the people that are dearest in your life?
Not all of us have a spouse or significant other, and if that’s your case, think about the values you’d like that other person to have. Compatibility always begins with those core values and shared beliefs. You can have different personalities, interests, backgrounds, vocations and/or experiences as long as you share the same values. If you don’t see eye to eye there, no amount of commonality will ever help you settle those differences.
More importantly, it’s a very lonely life if you have to go at it solo. So, what type of friends do you want to have? Who are you helping along the way? What type of mentors and role models are you seeking?
You can mend broken relationships, change family dynamics and impact lives around you.
You simply have to be intentional about growing your relationships and sharing your experiences. It’s not always easy, but its very, very rewarding.
Knowing who you want around you is half the battle. And you’ll spend a lifetime pursuing and growing those relationships. Just like everything else in life, you get what you put into it.
What’s to come?
I emphasize these three questions because they have been so pivotal in my own life. Before exploring any ‘optimization strategies’ or figuring how to ‘outsource your life,’ please spend some time on these questions.
I would rather you take the time to understand yourself better than you spending time, money and energy pursuing the wrong goals in life.
If you found these questions valuable and are interested in pursuing the outsourced life, Download Your Free 3 Life Questions Guide to help you with the process above. You will also receive updates as the site develops.